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Sunday 11th April 2010

Randy Stonehill announces breakup of his marriage

SINGER/songwriter and Jesus music veteran Randy Stonehill has announced the breakdown of his marriage to his wife Sandi. Read an entry on his Facebook page: "It is with sadness that I convey to you the failure of my long-struggling marriage of almost 30 years. Last year, after a renewed time of counselling together, I reached a turning point where I realised that I no longer had the will or strength to continue in my marriage. Those of you who have been through it know how agonizing it is, especially if that struggle ends in divorce. For those who value the honesty in my life, ministry, and in my songs, I want you to know what has happened and also to know that I am grieving openly about it, regard it as a failure in my life, and pray that the God of redemption will help me pick up the pieces and weave them into the tapestry of His will. I realise there will be consequences for my decision, but I am seeking the Lord for grace and mercy and likewise the same of the body of Christ. This has been a hard and painful process - for both of us. Your prayers on our behalf are much appreciated." CR

Reader Comments

Posted by Doug Bunge in Port Orchard, WA @ 11:01 on Apr 28 2012

I became a follower of Christ in 1977. My first 8 track was Larry Norman and my second was Randy Stonehill , the “Sky is Falling” I’ve seen Randy in concert 3 times. I’ve enjoyed his music over the years. I was sad, angry, and disappointed to hear about his divorce to his wife of 30yrs. The typical thing might be to just blurt out judgments. What good is that! Rather I’m left with, I don’t understand…how, why? As Christian artist, you kinda look up to them. You look up to them as role models, as examples of true Christianity and when this happens, it makes me wonder. Why the Christian message, aren’t we supposed to live by a higher standard than the world. Aren’t we supposed to have the power to love and live a life pleasing to God, or is all that just wishful thinking. I don’t understand. Now I really can’t listen to Randy’s music or his message. To me it’s lost its meaning. I just read Sandi’s message and if it’s true, and he did cheat on her, it makes it even more disappointing and my sympathy goes out to her. My wife and I have been married for 26yrs. Not always easy, but God is the glue, He gives us the power to love each other faithfully. Sincerely, Doug



Posted by Sandi Stonehill in Seal Beach Calif @ 07:43 on Apr 16 2012

I am so angry at the remark by Steve from Canada , stating that I am in a relationship......I was a good and FAITHFUL wife to RAndy for 29 years....He had the affairs....How dare you post a lie about me like that....
I have endured ENOUGH heartache the past three years.....HIS divorce has been final for almost 2 years and I am NOT now or have I ever been in a relationship with anyone since BEFORE my marriage to RAndy on Dec. 22, 1980.....Randy was the LOVE OF MY LIFE......I made the mistake of aging.....His new wife is young enough to be his daughter....Men...honor and cherish your wives....and when you have that middle age crisis hit.....go out and buy a used sports car ....

Sincerely,
Sandi Stonehill
Seal Beach Calif.



Posted by Sandi Stonehill in Seal Beach Calif @ 09:14 on Apr 13 2012

Steve in Canada......You could not be more wrong....I was a good and faithful wife to my husband. He left me for Leslie Sealander from Cayce S.C. I have a duffel bag FULL of love letters, his journals and pics on them on the road together...all dated....It has been three years since he left and I am NOT in a relationship to this day although we are legally divorced. Shame on you for telling such lies.



Posted by Kenny in Planet Earth @ 00:32 on Jan 10 2012

Clearly, Larry Norman is the cause for Randy and Sandi Stonehill's divorce. Randy was probably so upset, he divorced Sandi due to the grief of loosing a close friend, he married a girlfriend of two weeks later because he was lonely being all alone.

If only Mr. Norman would, just once, think of someone else for a change!


Reply by Don in USA @ 17:02 on Feb 15 2012

Kenny, can a person actually place blame for their actions upon another? It has often been said and well worth repeating, that we are responsible for our own actions! Larry Norman has long passed away, it is 4 years this month, you are off base bringing him into this. It is clear that you would blame another for your sin, do you see the logic you're presenting?

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Posted by Nathan in U.S.A. @ 07:38 on Sep 26 2011

You know, I was in on the ground floor of the "Jesus Music" movement, in the days of Solid Rock and Randy and Larry. Reading over the many judgmental, stone-casting, and downright arrogant posts regarding Randy reminds me why I don't hang around with Evangelicals anymore. You shoot your wounded.

Your pious pretense of feigning real concern for Randy while you heap comdemnation on his head fools no one outside of the Evangelical world. Guess what? God has better things to do. Larry certainly has better things to do, now that he is free of this dreckfest (you know, he no longer cares what people say or think about him). And you all who are condeming Randy should have better things to do. Honestly.

Reread Romans 14:10-13 and get on with your lives.


Reply by Nathan in USA @ 10:09 on Mar 18 2012

Again, brother, your comment exemplifies why many, many of us who love God and were involved in the early Jesus Music movement don't hang out with Evangelicals anymore. We want to spend what remains of our lives as advocates of AGAPE love, not stone-casting. And I trust that's what Randy wants as well. I wish you peace.

Nathan

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Reply by Don in USA @ 17:15 on Feb 15 2012

Nathan, did you actually read verse 13 of the chapter of Romans you mentioned? "judge this rather, that
"NO" man put a "stumbling block" or an "occasion to
fall" IN HIS BROTHER'S WAY." Isn't that exactly what Randy and those who have practiced divorce like him are doing? These christians are saying that it is okay to divorce, and for whatever reason deemed necessary for the cause. I say, is this righteousness?
You condone breaking GOD's commandments?
I agree, all have sinned and come short of the glory of GOD! But, do two wrongs make a right?
I have heard christians say, well since Amy Grant divorced, that makes it okay for me to the same.
They have put a stumbling block and an occasion to fall in their brother's way.

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Reply by Bill Lewis in Colorado @ 04:48 on Oct 13 2011

Randy and Sandi:

I just heard about the tragedy in Seal Beach. I wanted to make sure you are ok. I'm an old friend of Sandi's from Oxnard...Bill Lewis bill@lewiscolo.com 303 921 6034

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Posted by Paul in Colorado @ 02:48 on Aug 15 2011

Uncle Rand, I first saw in you concert in a small church in S. Miami in '76. I have been a friend you do not know since then. Grace and Peace to you my friend. My the Lord hold you during tough times. -Paul



Posted by Jim Burdett in Papua New Guinea @ 07:20 on Jun 8 2011

I have been a long time listener of Randy Stonehill and have been blessed, encouraged and comforted by his music. I do not judge him for his divorce. I am in no position to judge the failures of others. I do not think less of him or at least I try not to. However..., I can not understand how christian musicians or any other christian with a public ministry as well known as Randy Stonehill's can continue to minister publically after divorce and remarriage. As a matter of testimony how can someone like Amy Grant stand before an auditorium and sing a song like, "That's what love is for" when the all conquering power of love could not save her first marriage? I am glad that she is happily remarried and prospering. But I cringe ever time I hear her sing about the power of Jesus Christ and the power of love. Same with Randy Stonehill. I am not saying that these people should crawl under a rock and hide the rest of their lives. Nor should they stop ministering. But publically? Or are they so addictied to public performance that they can not stop no matter what? I have my own moral failures of the past to keep me up at night but I am not in a public ministry representing the Gospel before eyes of the fallen, watching world. I am not judging. I am advising. Advising people like Randy Stonehill and Amy Grant to spare the Gospel any more slander. I am praying for Randy Stonehill. I have heard all kinds of rumours like he is already remarried and that sort of thing. I dont know and I dont care to know. He just needs our prayers right now.


Reply by Don in USA @ 17:41 on Feb 15 2012

Hi Jim, I can appreciate what you are saying here,
even though you tend to stray and turn eyes into Amy Grant's direction. I fully agree that those in the eye of the public for JESUS' sake, should take care not to slander what GOD says in the Bible.
Should they stop their ministry? I don't think so, should the preacher quit preaching?
I also do not believe one can keep their given ministry in whatever field and live outright in sin: a case in point would be Ray Boltz in a gay relationship yet still singing gospel only to promote that lifestyle of living, this goes against scripture!
No such thing as a gay christian!
When GOD calls someone to do something, that is it!
Romans 11:29 reminds us of this. But we cannot continue in sin, GOD forbid, Amen! Romans 6:14-16.

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Reply by Don @ 20:44 on Sep 6 2011

FYI, Randy has been divorced twice and now married for the third time! I agree with some other comments that this seems to be some kinda trend for him to be in. I noticed with each marriage, Randy entered into it quickly. Randy's first wife whom he divorced in 1980 was the late Larry Norman's first wife in 1982. Is Randy overlooking the obvious? i.e. GOD's word? So many have been blessed by his music for countless years!

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Posted by Tim in Toronto @ 00:03 on Mar 24 2011

I think some of you need to read Failed Angle a little more closely. Perhaps it's clearer after all this time of promised updates and recordings and letters, which have not been posted; but there's a lot on that site which seems not to live up to its claims. The extremely short letter excerpts are very ambiguous. The long letter posted from Larry to Randy is quite bizarre in many ways. And, for example, the site author claims many times on the Randy page that Randy apologised for marrying his second wife so quickly, but in the example given he actually doesn't apologize for that, but is expressing sorrow that his first wife was hurt by it and its appearance.


Reply by jm in Ontario @ 08:12 on Apr 3 2011

Tim, Randy's quick marriage to his second wife is not a new thing. In fact, just recently, two weeks after his divorce to sandi, he remarried someone new. This is a pattern. I find it hard to understand how Randy can justify going on this tour dragging Larry's name through the dirt while he makes a mess of his own life.

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Posted by Bruce in Arizona @ 22:46 on Jan 22 2011

God knows that we are human. God knows that we ALL fail. Let's lift this brother in Christ and his family up in prayer. No man is our judge, only God. And guess what? God knows all about this situation and He still loves all involved. Blessings to you Randy, God has used your life and ministry in mighty ways, which He will continue to do. To all others who judge and condem, remember that only Christ has the right to judge. Owe no man anything, but to love one another...


Reply by Don in USA @ 17:24 on Feb 15 2012

Hi Bruce, I commend you on your gentle and kind spirit regarding Randy's situation. However, you are overlooking the obvious it seems. How many times shall a man of GOD divorce and remarry? What saith the word of GOD? Is not the word of GOD profitable for correction, reproof and to bring back believers to the truth contained therein? Does not the preacher stand behind the pulpit and preach the same to the congregation?

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Posted by Dave Eikenberry in Muskegon, Michigan @ 21:05 on Jan 4 2011

I'm wondering. Could it be possible that God really meant it when He said "I will not share my glory with another"? Could it be possible that "another" includes anything made out of wood, clay, stone, and /or humanity (i.e. "American Idols", "Evangelical Idols", etc.)? And, could it be possible that as we sin by worshipping the created rather than the Creator, the created goodness/beauty of all who are involved is painfully diminished ... even, and perhaps especially,... that of the idols themselves?! I'm just wondering.


Reply by Don in U.S.A. @ 16:44 on Sep 17 2011

Hi Dave, in response to your comments; GOD said that, "HE WILL NOT "GIVE" HIS GLORY TO ANOTHER".
(Isaiah 42:8 & 48:11) It is written!! This verse has nothing to do with humanity; it has to do with GOD and GOD alone! And yes, GOD really means what He says in His word!! If only every man would take it to heart, boy, would this world turn around! And when man worships the created more than the Creator, THIS IS IDOL WORSHIP!! WE ARE TO FLEE IT!!
Nothing wrong with buying the music and listening to it; but we should not be putting up posters and wearing t-shirts with the person etc. This is what the world does, we are to be separate from the world!
It is so sad that, today you cannot tell the believers from the world, in talk, dress, actions etc.

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