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Article Title:	On The Repeal Of "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" In The Military
Author of reported comment:	Paul
Comment Date:	11:30 on Aug 11 2009
Comment:	Dennis - First, I want you to know that I hear you loud and clear. Mixing sexes can create undesirable results in focused situations, IF people have no self control. I served for 10 years in the submarine force, a place where focus is paramount and I was gay. Since that time, I have come to learn that if I had been open - it would not have been a big deal. I have stayed in contact with a lot of my shipmates from my Commanding Officer to my seapup. Out of the tens of hundreds of them maybe a few would have had an issue with it - I have not received any negative feedback whatsoever. So this leands me to my next point. It's all a matter of focus. If I am in a focused situation as you stated my thinking is not on the guys butt next to me, it's on my job and that is where I kept my focus. Article after article I read and you, esp the older generation, seems to be focused on sex. Why? Being open in the military is not about being open to have random sex or push ourselves on straight soldiers. Instead it is to be able to be ourselves and not LIE. It's about meeting our loved ones on the pier just as the heterosexual sailors, soliders, and airmen do. To embrace the person we love in public and not hide. This hiding and secrecy does a number on you; ya kno? So I do understand your concern, try understanding ours?

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